Monday, March 12, 2012

What is friendship?

Friendship:
the state of being a friend association as friends


Friend: 
a person attached to another by feelings of affection orpersonal regard.
a person who gives assistance; patronsupporter
a person who is on good terms with another; a person whois not hostile:


But what is friendship? I'm not talking about friendship in the sense of "We just have to be around each other, so we talk." I'm talking about honest friendship. What does that look like? Is friendship good times and laughing with each other? Is friendship going out to eat and talking endlessly to one another about good times and bad times? Is friendship a shoulder to cry on when you're upset and a person to rejoice when you're happy?
The definition the dictionary gave is true, but is very limited. Friendship is two-sided. Many of us tend to think of friendship of what it gives to us, but what can we give to it. Friendship is real and you have the freedom to be honest with one another. Not only will you be comforted, but you will comfort and it won't even bother you. In fact, you'll be happy to be the comforter no matter what your personality is like. Each friendship is different, so it's hard to say what friendship looks like for every person.

What then is the basis of friendship?
Love. Unconditional love. Broken, human unconditional love. Since we are human, it is hard for us to truly have unconditional love. Sometimes we fail, but the deeper the friendship, the harder it is not to love this person. The only way we can even get close (and I use the term "close" loosely) to truly unconditional love is by a relationship with the truly unconditional lover of humanity.

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